When I lived in the country, I had an awesome church and an even more awesome group of ladies in my Sunday school class. I definitely miss them all and I know that I feel a bit of a void without the conversation and being surrounded by people with such a strong faith on a consistent basis. Don’t get me wrong, I have AMAZING friends here and am more than thankful for them. All relationships are different and I do miss the ladies from church.
So, I have added a few faith-based items on my 101 list, for many reasons. For this task, I read Fresh Start by Dough Fields. Overall, I enjoyed it. There was some humor that I didn’t really enjoy, and a few examples that sort of sat weird, but nothing major. I am glad I read it.
One of the major things I got from the book was having an action plan if you will. Pretty much, figuring out what your triggers are, what it is that gets to you. For me, some things my mother says and does send me into a downward spiral. The next step, Fields explains is to look beyond the main emotion (typically anger) and see what it is that is bothering you. Most of the time, I feel hurt and that I’m not good enough. Obviously there are over 200 pages in the book, so my explanation will come up short, but Fields suggests a few things. Analyzing those emotions and defining them and then working with them, much better than just blowing up obviously. Also, developing this plan I spoke of. These situations usually don’t occur only once (ah yes, 26 years with my mother, I know) so develop a plan on how to better deal with it next time something happens. Diffusing the situation if you will. This is going to take some work, but lends itself to a few other goals.
Another point that I really took away from the book was living with intention. Fields even prays in the book, “God, help us identify the true values in life – what matters most – and then give us the power to spend our time on those values.” Um, hello, thank you for summarizing the theme of my 101 project. Striving to live life with a calm sense of purpose is something that I am constantly working for. I fail, miserably, pretty much daily, but this book really brought a lot of things into perspective and gave me some ideas toward making this work in my life.
So yeah, the book will be staying on my shelves, and I foresee me going back to it on occasion. I don’t think this is the only faith/spiritual based book that I will read during the duration of this list, but I am marking it complete today. What books have you read that have really spoken to you?